Healing Will Cost You Something
Most people won’t tell you this. But I will.
If you choose to heal for real—it’s going to cost you.
And not just your money.
It might cost you your doctor.
It might cost you your peace at family gatherings.
It might cost you friends who say you’re doing “too much.”
It might cost you the comfort of being seen as agreeable, obedient, “easy.”
But healing was never supposed to be easy.
It was supposed to be honest.
And that honesty? It will ask for things.
It Might Cost You Your Doctor
Let’s go there.
Some of you are still trying to play nice in exam rooms where your questions are treated like threats.
Where asking for a second opinion gets you labeled “noncompliant.”
Where not agreeing to the standard drug protocol means they fire you as a patient. Yes—they fire you.
Ask me how I know.
I’ve been kicked out of pediatrician’s offices.
I’ve had my own primary care doctor cut ties because I wouldn’t blindly follow her regimen.
Not because I was reckless. But because I was asking questions. I wanted to understand. I wanted options.
And when you do that in the mainstream medical system?
It bruises egos. It rattles control.
And that’s when the mask comes off.
So yes—healing might cost you your doctor.
But don’t get it twisted. That’s not your loss.
It Might Cost You the People Closest to You
You want to know what else it might cost?
Your circle.
Your peace with family members who think you’ve gone “natural” and naïve.
Your friendships with people who ask, “Why don’t you just do what the doctor says?”
Let me be real with you: some people won’t understand why you’re taking this path.
They won’t like that you’re questioning the system.
They won’t relate to the books on your nightstand or the way you’re saying no to things they think are “normal.”
Let them misunderstand you.
Let them be uncomfortable.
They don’t have to live in your body. You do.
It Might Cost You Convenience
Healing for real is not convenient.
It’s not 15-minute visits and one-pill solutions.
It’s two-hour appointments with someone who actually listens.
It’s diving into your childhood history, your emotional patterns, your liver health, your trauma, your gut, your stress.
It’s saying no to quick fixes and saying yes to complexity.
And yes—it’s frustrating that we have to fight this hard for answers.
But you’re not crazy for doing so. You’re courageous.
Standard of Care Isn’t the Standard for You
Let me say this directly:
“Standard of care” is not sacred.
It’s not personalized. It’s not always updated. It’s not always right.
It’s a legal defense.
It’s a CYA policy.
And it’s used far too often to shut down discussion instead of support healing.
If a provider throws around “standard of care” like it’s a trump card,
what they’re really saying is:
“I’m not willing to go deeper.”
That’s not care. That’s control.
And you’re allowed to walk away from it.
Here’s What You Keep
You might lose a provider.
You might lose approval.
You might lose relationships built on you staying quiet.
But you’ll keep your discernment.
You’ll gain your voice.
You’ll stand taller in your knowing.
And I’ll be right there with you.
Because if you’re going to be labeled “difficult,”
let it be because you chose truth over silence.
If you’re going to be seen as “noncompliant,”
let it be because you said, “I’m not outsourcing my power anymore.”
And if you’re going to lose people—
let it be in pursuit of a body that finally feels whole.
This Is What Healing Costs
It costs comfort.
It costs blind trust.
It costs playing nice when your body is begging you to be bold.
But it’s worth every part of you it breaks because what you’re rebuilding is real.
This isn’t rebellion. This is remembrance.
You don’t owe anyone comfort with your choices.
You owe yourself clarity. And peace. And truth.
And when it gets hard?
When it gets lonely?
Know this:
There are warriors like me in the fight with you.
And we’re not backing down.